Saying Someone Did Something That You Consider Not Bad

Well, if it's something bad and you're too embarrassed to give all the information, things could get messy.  I mean if it was just a misunderstanding.  I thought someone was giving me signals to call them the "n" word, and I'm pretty sure they were.  I don't think everyone would be treated as I am if they did that and that if they did that it would be for a bad reason.  I thought they just wanted me to participate in losening up.  I didn't want to.  It feels that if I did for a bad reason I'd be in trouble.  In a way, my life still goes on, in some ways better than it should and in others, well, losing profile 33333333, not so good.