Not getting too detailed about it ...

... I want to know who in my shoes would listen to the signals that a couple and others wanted you to call their 1-year-old daughter the "n" word on the internet as an ice breaker, that they believed it was like a way to make the word seem friendly so a problem wouldn't come up.  I don't think anyone else would.  I think if they were someone else doing what I did that there life would be much worse and they would call someone that in real life.